Life as Britny is a safe, empowering space dedicated to YOU:
The woman ready to heal from her past and become open and available for healthy love and relationships.
I know you want to:
- let go and heal from your past
- love and accept yourself more
- ditch the dead-end dates and actually have fun meeting potential partners
- attract your healthy, ideal partner
- enjoy your life and feel more confident in your own skin
This I know for sure: When you change the way you feel about yourself on the inside, big changes are possible on the outside.
On this blog you’ll find self-love and dating tools, resources, and inspiration to help you get out of your own way and attract the healthy love you truly desire and deserve.
Everything I create here comes from my own personal experiences. If I haven’t tried it myself, I won’t share it.
I’m in the self-love trenches with you. It’s a journey of a lifetime.
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A bit more about moi
Hey girl! It’s me, Britny!
I’m a Mississippi girl living my best life in Split, Croatia. Before falling in love and settling down in Split, I traveled the world running an online business as a coach and a healer. In the last 4 years alone I’ve lived in Spain, Croatia, France, Bali, Thailand, New Zealand, and Slovenia. I definitely have the travel bug!
Now I still work with a handful of coaching and healing clients, but my main focus is serving women like you through my books, courses, and free content. My big vision is to help as many women as possible ditch toxic relationship patterns and attract lasting, healthy love. After all the work I’ve done on myself and with my clients over the past 6 years, I fully believe that self-love alone can change your life.
My self-love journey
Back in 2013 I had a major depressive episode when it seemed like pretty much everything in my life was falling apart at the same time: I was going through a major breakup, working for an emotionally abusive boss, and to top it all off I had a miscarriage.
On the outside my life looked pretty great. I had just graduated with a masters degree in public health, I was planning a big move to Nashville, and I was only 23 years old with my whole life ahead of me.
On the inside though? I felt like I had no reason to live, and I didn’t know how to love myself.
As the child of a rape, I always felt like I didn’t deserve to be here and that I was bad or evil just like my father’s behavior. I thought if I could just be perfect then I’d finally feel enough.
I thought if I could just earn the love and acceptance of the people around me, then I’d be worthy. It’s no wonder I felt hopeless when none of my striving and people-pleasing made me feel any different than before.
One day after weeks of being in a deep depression, I heard a loving voice from inside me. It said something like this, “You have to find your own source of love and happiness, Britny. That’s your mission now.”
Suddenly, I felt like I had meaning again and like I could overcome the sad dark pit of hopelessness I’d fallen into.
It was at this period in my life that I had my first spiritual awakening, and I realized that I had been living my life for everyone else but me. I realized that I had to learn to love myself just the way I am, and not because of anything I did to earn it.
I still had a lot to learn when it came to love, because even after that wakeup call I continued to attract toxic and unhealthy relationships. I was extremely codependent, and I would ignore major red flags because deep down I don’t think I realized things could be different. It felt normal!
In September of 2017, I hit another low point when I went through the worst breakup I’ve ever experienced. I went to Bali for 8 months to heal and recalibrate and figure out my next life steps (I know, lucky me!)
But it wasn’t all rainbows and butterflies (even in a place as gorgeous as Bali!) as I took that time to really face myself and my deepest darkest fears. I finally did the inner work I needed to do around feeling worthy of receiving love.
I had to get real and recognize that I was the common denominator in my relationship which meant I had power to change things.
Today I’m happily married to my husband Ivan, and our love story is straight out of a movie! I’ll have to write a post about that I suppose 😉
Our relationship is not perfect, because we are both imperfect humans but for the first time in my adult life I’m in a healthy partnership. I no longer equate the emotional rollercoaster with passion and love.
Self-love and healing is what helped me finally open my heart to healthy love, and I now have the tremendous honor of helping other women do the same thing!
Sidenote: Can I just say I’m so glad you’re here!?
If you’ve made it this far, you’re the real MVP. 😉