• Skip to primary navigation
  • Skip to content
  • Skip to primary sidebar
  • Skip to footer

Life as Britny

  • I Want ↓
    • to love & accept myself
    • to heal & attract healthy love
    • to take better care of myself
    • to feel happier
  • About
  • Blog
  • Courses ↓
    • Higher Love Academy
    • Heal Your Heart
  • Freebie Library ↓
    • Get the Password
    • Enter the Free Library
  • Books
You are here: Home / Archives for Britny West

Britny West

How to Deal with Loneliness when Working from Home

how to deal with loneliness when you work from home

7 Questions You Need to Ask Yourself When Setting Goals

questions to ask yourself when setting goals

10 Empowering Beliefs to Help You Get Through Hard Times

10 empowering beliefs that will help you live your best life

25 Self-Care Activities You Can Do in 5 Minutes or Less

self-care activities

How to Feel Confident in a Swimsuit at Any Size

How to feel confident in a swimsuit at any size

8 Self-love Books Every Woman Should Read

8 self love books every woman should read

8 Not-so-obvious Signs of Self-sabotage

8 signs you're self-sabotaging without even realizing it

How I Ditched My To-do List to Get More Done in Less Time

How I ditched my to-do list and got more done in less time without overwhelm

30 Life Lessons I Learned in My Twenties

30 life lessons I learned in my twenties

How to Get a Good Deal on Airbnb (and save $55!)

How to book like a pro on Airbnb!
« Previous Page
Next Page »

Primary Sidebar


Welcome! I’m so glad you’re here!

This is your safe space to learn how to heal from your past, love and accept yourself, and attract the healthy love and relationships you desire and deserve.

I’m a self-love advocate, author, energy healer, love coach, and course creator.  I live in Split, Croatia with my husband and two kitties, Milo and Mario.

  • Email
  • Facebook
  • Instagram
  • Pinterest

Get all of my self love, self care, and mindset freebies!

Subscribe (free!) to my newsletter with updates and tips PLUS get instant access to my resource library with printables, workbooks, mobile wallpapers, meditations, and more! Once subscribed, I will send you a newsletter with a new freebie each week. 

Thank you!

Check your email to confirm your subscription and get your freebie!

Recent Posts

  • How to Stop Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Partners
  • How To Find True Love Through Self-Love
  • How to Make a Big Decision Fast (and Feel Good about it)
  • How to Love Yourself: 8 Self-love Practices that Will Change Your Life for the Better
  • 10 Easy Self-Care Practices for Stress Relief

LOVE MY BLOG? BUY ME A COFFEE

Buy Me a Coffee at ko-fi.com

AMAZON ASSOCIATES DISCLOSURE

As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.

Read the full disclosure here.

Footer

🎊 IT’S HERE!! 🎊 *drumroll please!!* EXCITING NEWS 🎊🎊💕
⠀
The doors to Heal Your Heart are now officially open to the public!!
⠀
Yasss! 😍😍
⠀
This is a 21 day healing experience I’ve created for the woman who is ready to let go and heal from her past unhealthy stories, beliefs, and relationships so she can become available and open to new healthy Love.
⠀
It’s time to heal.
⠀
Your past does not have to define your future.
⠀
We start on November 25th and you get lifetime access to everything!
⠀
🎊 FAST ACTION BONUS: For the first 48 hours you can join for 25% off by using coupon code: timetoheal at checkout 😮
⠀
That makes your investment only $167 or only $333 if you decide to go VIP and get 1:1 support from me. 😍
⠀
Go to the link in my bio for more details!
The Hardest Thing I've Ever Had to Forgive
⠀
I remember as a little girl wondering "who is my father?" "would he love me if he knew me?" "why is he not around?"
⠀
My mom wouldn't talk about him when I brought up my questions.
⠀
Not only that but her entire energy would change anytime I brought him up in conversation. She'd go from happy to silent and sad in 2 seconds.
⠀
By the time I turned 12 years old, I couldn't bear not knowing any longer. At the same time, I had a fear of knowing the truth about my father. I had an idea about what happened but I didn't want to be right.
⠀
So one day I came outside to the porch where my mom was sitting and I asked her the scary question, "Mama, were you raped?"
⠀
I felt like I had simultaneously pulled the rug from underneath her and also set her free from hiding the truth.
⠀
Her eyes told me first, and then she confirmed my fears with her words.
⠀
"Yes, I was raped. I didn't know I was pregnant with you until I was almost 5 months along. I would go through it all over again to have you though, Britny."
⠀
But I couldn't believe her. How could she love me when I came from something so awful?
⠀
How could she see me and not also see him?
⠀
I was crushed, and deep down I started believing I was evil and wrong for even existing.
⠀
I took on the weight of the world thinking if only I could be perfect, my existence would not cause so much pain.
⠀
It took years of depression and feeling deeply unworthy before I was able to heal and realize that I was here for a reason, and that I was not evil or bad.
⠀
But it was only recently that I was able to forgive what my father did to my mother that night in 1988.
⠀
It was their first date. How could he?
⠀
I love my mother so much. To forgive him felt like betraying her.
⠀
But also - to forgive him made me feel like I was wrong for existing all over again.
⠀
Until I finally realized - There is Divine in every single one of us.
⠀
What happened to my mother was terrible, but through that experience she also got me.
⠀
And I got this life.
⠀
The Divine within him and my mother created me.
⠀
It wasn't the evil that brought me into this world.
⠀
I was meant to be. CONT. IN COMMENTS
Here’s the HONEST truth 👇
⠀
There was never anything you needed to be, do, or have in order to be worthy of love.
⠀
You are lovable because you are.
⠀
You are worthy because you are.
⠀
Along the way, life taught you otherwise.
⠀
Your experiences fooled you into thinking that you had to prove yourself in order to receive the love you craved.
⠀
But the truth is: You are Love.
⠀
Love attracts more Love.
⠀
In order to fully tap into this truth, you must identify, Heal, and release the old stories and beliefs that taught you differently.
⠀
Your past love experiences were only reflecting back to you what you felt worthy of receiving.
⠀
There is no shame or blame here.
⠀
Only empowerment as you realize that those old stories no longer have to be yours.
⠀
The truth has always been there waiting for you to see it.
⠀
You are lovable and worthy just the way you are.
⠀
May as well accept that ;)
⠀
Who needed to hear this? Raise your 🤚 in comments below and tell me at least one thing you love about yourself.
Did you know that anger is a higher vibe emotion than sadness?
⠀
Anger is a sign that you’re starting to get your power back and know you are worthy of so much more than you’ve been allowing yourself to receive or experience.
⠀
USE your anger to point you in the direction of your dreams.
⠀
Don’t make it mean you can’t have what you want.
⠀
USE your frustration as an outlet for all the pent up emotions to finally be expressed.
⠀
Anger is only toxic if you live there and use it in the opposite direction of where you’d like to go.
⠀
The anger will not last.
⠀
Once you allow yourself to feel it without shame or guilt, you more easily rise to a higher emotional frequency.
Just gonna leave this here.

P.S.

If you’re looking for support with attracting healthy love join my free community Magnetic Queens (link in bio)!
💀 Death brings life ✨
⠀
A theme I’m processing in my own life now that also applies to finding love...
⠀
Everything you’ve gone through
⠀
All the pain that you’ve felt
⠀
All the disappointment
⠀
All the frustration
⠀
All the self-doubt and uncertainty
⠀
All the experiences that left you feeling hollowed out and used up
⠀
👆 All of that has no bearing on who you are, who you get to be, and what you get to experience NOW.
⠀
That is the old.
⠀
That is the past.
⠀
That isn’t who you are now.
⠀
That isn’t what you are destined to experience and have now.
⠀
💀 In fact, a part of you must die in order to step into the woman you are today.
⠀
What needs to die so you can come back to life?
⠀
💀 old beliefs
💀 old stories
💀 old ways of being
💀 old ways of doing
💀 old ways of communicating
💀 anything that you continue to do and be out of habit that no longer lights you up anymore
⠀
Death can be scary.
⠀
It means taking the leap from the known to the unknown.
⠀
But unknown also equals infinite possibilities.
⠀
If the known doesn’t feel so good and it’s not getting you to where you desire to be, I don’t know about you but infinite possibility sounds like a pretty damn good opportunity!
⠀
💀 Let the dead Rest In Peace. (Stop living in a past version of yourself that can no longer nourish and sustain you)
⠀
💀 Mourn the loss. (Feel your feelings, get the closure you need)
⠀
🔥 Allow yourself to be re-born into a new life. (Step into what you desire to be, do, and have now)
⠀
Like a phoenix rising up from the ashes of what once was - you get to begin anew more empowered and aligned than ever before.
⠀
👑 Who needed this message today?
HEALTHY DOES NOT HAVE TO MEAN BORING
⠀
What if love didn’t have to come with
⠀
🚫 the roller coaster ride
🚫 the constant drama
🚫 losing yourself
🚫 sacrificing your own dreams and success
🚫 losing your damn mind
⠀
👆btw what I just described above is not love. It’s codependency and fear being reflected back and forth between two people.
⠀
If you see yourself in that list, you’re in good company.
⠀
Most of us (myself included of course) have at some point confused these things above for love and passion.
⠀
It’s like a drug. Who wouldn’t!?
⠀
Healthy love is:
⠀
💕 safe and secure
💕 grounding and like coming home
💕 interdependent
💕 shared dreams
💕 supporting each other’s personal dreams
💕 healthy communication
💕 sharing happiness
💕 healthy boundaries
💕 deep connection and feeling truly seen
💕 nourishing and expansive to your mind, body, and spirit
⠀
You get to have this.
⠀
Passion and excitement can still exist in a healthy secure relationship.
⠀
When you work on healing the part of you that is attracted to what feels good only in the short term but hurts like hell in the long term, secure healthy love will no longer seem boring 🙏
⠀
——-
PS
⠀
If you would like to work on this I invite you to join my free community Magnetic Queens (link in bio) where I share a lot more content and free support 😘
💕 The ultimate dating tip 💕
⠀
👉 When someone tells (or shows) you who they are, believe them. 👈
⠀
This would prevent so much hurt!
⠀
🔥Hard but helpful truths:
⠀
🚫When someone ghosts you 👉 they are showing you how much they value you and your feelings.
⠀
🚫When someone says they aren’t looking for anything serious but acts like you’re a couple with everything but the title 👉 they are still not ready (and by staying in a dynamic you don’t actually want, you’re causing yourself unnecessary pain).
⠀
🚫When someone doesn’t do what they said they’d do 👉 they are showing you that they arent trustworthy and don’t follow through.
⠀
🚫When someone makes you feel good sometimes but awful most of the time (no matter how good those good times are) 👉they are showing you who they are beyond their mask.
⠀
When a relationship is right and aligned, you wont feel so confused and hurt and unappreciated.
⠀
If you’re feeling this way, give yourself the love you crave by walking away and allowing yourself to receive better.
⠀
——
PS if you’re ready to heal your unhealthy patterns and beliefs around love and attract lasting love and partnership, I invite you to join  my intimate group love coaching program, Higher Love Academy
⠀
Link in bio 😘😘 📷 via @createthelove

Follow me

  • Email
  • Facebook
  • Instagram
  • Pinterest

Affiliate Disclosure

As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.

Read the full disclosure here.

Recent Posts

how to stop attracting emotionally unavailable partners
how I found true love through self-love
how to make a big decision fast

Copyright © 2019 Life as Britny • All rights reserved. • Privacy Policy • Disclaimer •

This website uses cookies to improve your experience. We'll assume you're ok with this, but you can opt-out if you wish.Accept Reject Read More
Privacy & Cookies Policy

Necessary Always Enabled